But dating coach David Wygant says dating three to find the one isn't always the best mantra, and can even be emotionally "dangerous.""You can date as many people as you handle," he says.
Ever hear the old adage, "date three to find the one"? The simple premise—date three men at once to increase your chances of finding the man you'll marry—was something my grandmother swore by (funny, considering I doubt she dated anyone besides my grandfather.
Ever.)But there may be wisdom in these wise, old words.
He made it clear early on that he doesn't want anything serious, so I consider him more of a FWB than anything else.
We often do things that feel coupley- we go out on dates, we cuddle, have intimate conversations, and sleep over at each other's places- but I don't think his feelings towards me or lack thereof have changed.
Ugh, but it'd be so much easier to schedule one after the other so I don't have to go home in between. Wait, I wonder if he has information I should know about. One of them is having feelings for you and it is not the one you like the most.
Preferably at the same bar so I could just sit there all night motionless like a beached seal. You can't go to your favorite bar on all your dates because the others might see you there. He really is the keeper to my freaky universe and I should probably tip him more. You know you're going to have to have The Talk with them and tell them you're not interested in becoming exclusive, but also they're really good at going down on you and losing that will suuuuuck. You're having feelings for one of them but you're not ready to give up on your cool new sex cult.
Grandma's concern was about weighting your options instead of driving yourself nuts and obsessing over just one man. "If you are looking for a serious relationship, then you should absolutely be dating more than one man at once...
Not investing all your time, energy, and emotions into any single man, no matter how much he's convinced you he's Mr. You simply don't have time to fret about how much time he's fretting about you if you're simultaneously dating Mr. you need quantity to find quality," says "dateologist" and flirting expert Tracey Steinberg.
Know what you want ahead of time so you aren't getting too invested. You should have a personal list."Ladies love lists, but Wygant says he's talking about a different kind.