It’s not after sex and it’s not after you tell us how great we are.
This is rooted in our primal desire to be protectors, to be the provider, to be the nurturer.
It’s part of why we can be so emotionally stoic, but it’s also responsible for most of the qualities women most look for in men.
Whether or not a person has the ability or actual desire to do these is often secondary to the escape and joy that fantasy provides.
Sexual fantasies allow you to explore sexual desires, feelings, and behaviors without actually choosing to do them.
More than that, you’re going to resent him for giving in so easily and becoming the man you think you want.
The man you really want is the independent man who stands on his own.
Paradoxically, men also want to feel like you don’t need them for anything, they are completely independent and you’ll never come knocking on their door for anything.
What they really want is the space to be themselves without being judged, monitored or pressured to change.
Alice, I am a straight male who has recently become infatuated with the idea of performing oral sex on another man.
Guys don't turn me on at all, but the idea of having a penis in my mouth, for whatever reason, is absolutely scintillating! Dear Reader, Fantasies are a great, safe way to explore exciting events and situations — that you may or may not actually want to do.
Make him feel like he’s at home whenever he’s around you.