It has its perks and it has its bummer moments, but I think dating up in age is something that women should do at least once in life, even if it doesn’t turn into something serious.Dating an older man can teach you a lot, especially about yourself (and what you do and don’t want in a partner), but it’s not always the easiest of relationships. Just in case you’re thinking of getting serious with a fella quite a few years older or even decades older than you, here are a few things you might want to keep in mind before you get it crackin’.
He's trying some new passion project every week and you have to be supportive of every single one. You have conversations with female acquaintences whose husbands are lawyers or doctors or entrepreneurs who are like "So what does he do? Hahahhaha do you know where the ladies' room is, great, thanks."5. And you wind up not being able to take that trip to Puerto Vallarta because he racked up way too many bar tabs last month.6.
I know he has the energy of a crackhead on a log flume, but nightlife is for youngs.2.
You'll end up alienating the friends who are dropping truth-bombs such as the one above.
Next thing you know, he's your closest friend as well as your boyfriend — which creates a co-dependent dynamic that's bad for any relationship.8.
And if you tell them, you'll deal with all-out fights.9. No matter how special he insists you are, the chances are that he's been dating younger girls for years.10. I know hearing that is like sticking a fork in your chest and ripping your heart out. Maybe you're sure that you won't be dramatic about it, like "other girls." But that shit tends to sneak up on you. And maybe somewhere down the road, things will be different for both of you.
And it doesn't mean you're weak or naïve— it just means that you value yourself. If he's married, he's not going to leave his wife for you. Let me rephrase that: It probably last, because as you get older, you'll change (which is normal and great so don't fight it! But the only way for that to happen is to let it end when it's supposed to.
Whether or not you tell your parents about him or not, it's a lose-lose.
If not, the sneaking around, lies and secrets will strain your relationship. Sleeping with him might be a bigger emotional deal for you than you think.
" And you're like, how do you not realize my stomach is a shitty used car that'll break as soon as you drive it out of the lot?? He can drink until he passes out and barely feel it the next day, because #youth.